Simply Begin Again – Podcast 133 (5:50)

Ever feel stuck or discouraged about moving forward? Here is a simple exercise that makes all the difference.

Transcript

Welcome to the Sabbath Cafe Podcast. This is Episode 133 – Simply begin again.
For transcripts and more episodes, please go to sabbathcafe.substack.com.

Hi everyone! Thanks for listening to the Sabbath Cafe Podcast. And welcome to our first episode of 2025. I hope you all had a good holiday season and had a good restful time.

Usually me and my family, we take a break in some downtime at the end of the year. And so by the time January rolls around, supposedly we’re all ready to go, right? I was very excited. I had a great break with a lot of new ideas. And so I thought, “Great. January started, new year. I am ready to go and jumping into all these new projects.”

But sometimes, when you’re so excited about a vision or all these things in your mind and you sit down at the table to start working on it, all of a sudden, you feel so intimidated.

I think for me it’s a few things all mixed together there’s the self-doubt of starting new projects, and then just trying to get back into anything after a break always takes time. And I know for sure that the first couple of tries, I will be making mistakes just because I’m trying to remember some of the things… trying to warm up.

And as a recovering perfectionist, I often get stuck at this stage. I don’t know why, but the idea of making mistakes often keep me from moving forward.

And a few years back, I learned about this exercise of beginning again, how to begin again. And it has been so helpful for when I feel paralyzed in the process.

This is actually an old Franciscan advice or exercise. Basically, it’s to treat yourself as a beginner. And whatever project or whatever you’re trying to do, just think of yourself doing it as a beginner. And it sounds simple, but it’s such a powerful tool.

When we begin again, we wipe the slate clean. We just toss away any expectation of ourselves and just reconnect and focus on what we need to work on.

And it also helps to get rid of any guilt or shame you may feel about taking a break. The feelings of guilt and shame, they only keep us stuck looking at the past. They don’t really help us move forward. And so when we begin again and start over, we can kind of put those things aside and simply jump back into the process.

This is so helpful when you want to make any long-term changes. Whether it’s about exercising, eating better, or just building any new habits, it takes time for these new routines to form and to adapt. And so whenever you find yourself falling back into old habits or quitting new routines, there’s no need to beat yourself up. Just simply begin again.

This idea of starting and restarting as a beginner is also a great exercise for us folks who wrestle with ADHD tendencies. This practice removes so much of that self-criticism that we always hear in our thoughts that brings the guilt and the shame. And so this exercise is remove those things so we can simply move forward and start to re-engage with the process.

If you have ADHD tendencies, you know what I’m talking about. Even before we start anything, that critical inner voice almost always has already killed any motivation. And so whenever I feel those old voices starting again, I just have to remind myself to simply begin again. Then I can just stop all those criticisms and remove all that self-sabotage.

And so if you have been thinking about starting or restarting any projects or habit in the new year, I hope you will give this a try. Simply begin again and just take that next step.

Treat yourself like a beginner and enjoy the process of learning and discovering.

Treat yourself as a beginner and give yourself the grace to practice without any expectations.

Learning to begin again really helped me get unstuck so many times in my process. I hope it’ll be helpful for you too.

And that’s it for this episode.

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Thanks for listening, and we’ll see you next time.

Dopamine Fast Diary – Part 1

This is inspired by “Dopamine Nation” by Dr. Anna Lembke. Listen to  Sabbath Cafe Podcast #129 for my reflections on the book. 

At the end of her book, “Dopamine Nation”, Dr. Anna recommended a “dopamine fast” to reset our dopamine flooded brains.  Simply put, it’s to identify the habits where once we start, we find it hard to stop, and fast from it for 24 hours.  I felt ambitious, and decided to fast from online-games and TikTok videos for 48 hours.  

Right now, I’m at the 24 hour mark, and it’s been both easy and hard.  

It’s amazing how TikTok style videos still find ways into my feed.  Before I knew it, I’m scrolling through these micro videos again on Facebook, YouTube… To facilitate this process, I pulled out non-digital projects like paper journals and sketch books so I can keep my hands busy and catch up on my creative works.   

Dr. Anna warned about anxiety, irritability, and depression as part of the withdrawal process.  However, at first, I actually felt relieved and enjoyed catching up on some sketching with the extra time that I had.  Surprisingly, I also remembered many things from my to-do list that I had procrastinated on. My “age-related bad memory” turns out to be related to my “dopamine habits.”  

The anxiety and irritability didn’t hit me until the next day.  Actually, it wasn’t so much the anxiety that surfaced, but the pain and frustrations behind the anxiety. Without my “coping habits,” I came face to face with the deep anguish and pain that I’ve been feeling lately from some life changes.  

Here’s a quick disclaimer.  I don’t think what I’m dealing with is extraordinary.  These are simply life situations that we all go through.    My favorite psychologist once mentioned that life is difficult and full of challenges.  And it is in facing and working through these challenges that we can find meaning. That changed my perspective in dealing with trials in life.  Nevertheless, when I am in the midst of it, the emotions can still feel pretty overwhelming.  

I was also surprised because I didn’t think I was repressing my frustration. Reality bites, however.  Without the coping habits, fears and feelings of disappointment surfaced. Their intensity caught me off guard.  Thankfully, I remember how to work through negative feelings.  Feelings need to be acknowledged.  “I feel hurt because…” “I feel disappointed because…”  As I continued to acknowledge my negative emotions, they dissipated, and gave way to peace. Then I remembered insights and scriptures God highlighted about my situation.  These insights cut through the confusion, and reminded me of God’s faithfulness.  For the first time in a long while, I felt hopeful again. 

This is the power of a “dopamine fast.”  I’ll be honest, going through this exercise was not pleasant.  However, it helped me understand why I’d become so easily irritated lately.  When I stopped my coping habits, I stopped “running away,” and started facing my own issues.   

… to be continued in “Dopamine Fast Diary – Part 2“.